[Reblogging] Should You Transition: 3 Tips For Gender Questioners

26 02 2015

For me, this is probably one of the most important things to ask myself as I pursued and continue to pursue gender transition: ‘First, a reframe. In most cases the question is not so much, “Should I transition?” but rather “How should I transition?””

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Ekklesía Antínoou: Elevating the Beloved Dead

24 02 2015

Though I am not an official member of the Ekklesía Antínoou, I am a devotee of Antinoüs and the Tetrad++ nonetheless. As P. Sufenas Virius Lupus asks, please join us on this Tuesday in elevating our beloved trans and gender-variant dead. A link to the elevation prayers can be found at the preceding link.

Ave Antinoüs!
Hail the Beloved Dead!

Amen, and Blessed Be!

Pope Francis and Transgender Persons

20 02 2015

Here’s my video response to the comments made by Pope Francis that transgender persons go against “the order of creation” and are, therefore, akin to nuclear weapons.

Ancestor in Spirit: Alan Turing

17 02 2015

On Sunday, the day after Anne and I were married, we went on our first movie date as wife and wife. It was to see The Imitation Game, the biopic about the life of Alan Turing.

One might wonder why I’m referring to Turing as an ancestor in spirit. I’m no mathematician. I can hardly solve a word jumble puzzle, so cryptography is well beyond my abilities. I consider Turning to be an ancestor in spirit because he, like me, was not straight. I might not be gay in the traditional sense, but I am a woman married to another woman. More accurately, I’m a trans woman married to a cis woman. But ultimately, Turing, Anne, and I are all under the rainbow umbrella.

Turing’s full role in World War II wasn’t revealed until long after the fact, long after his death. A death that was a suicide after being convicted of homosexuality and being forced to endure chemical castration as a penalty for not being heterosexual. But these details are important because it states quite clearly that a homosexual man, a civilian, made a great contribution to winning World War II.

And he was punished for being who he was.

He was eventually pardoned, but the timing leaves me shaking my head. It could be said that it’s better late than never, but for those of us who are marginalized gender, romantic, and sexual identified (MGRSI) persons, late is not quite good enough.

I held it together till the end of the movie, when text on the screen described Turing’s suicide. At that point, I began crying openly, and Anne comforted me. We were the last ones to leave the auditorium.

But not long before we left, a woman touched my knee and smiled as she walked past. This was an important gesture, as I was lamenting why so many non-MGRSI persons treat MGRSI persons so poorly. Her simple touch and smile reminded me that things have changed since Turing’s time and they continue to change. The struggle is not over, and the Supreme Court set to rule on marriage equality later this year is a reminder that what Anne and I share could still be in danger. We are not yet equal to our straight peers.

And so, I will continue to bear in mind the sacrifices of those who came before me and of my contemporaries. I choose to revere them as ancestors because my life would be worse without what they have done for me and mine.

Amen, and Blessed Be.

(Y)our Privilege is Showing

5 02 2015

“Words are powerful; they create our reality.” — Rev. Jerri Handy

As I was having lunch with friends at seminary today, I heard some things in the conversation that gave me pause.

One comment was in terms of “giving. We plan our giving around our budgets, instead of planning our budgets around our giving.” This struck me as indicative of great privilege.

What of poor or unemployed persons (I am among the latter) who worship with faith communities? What of underemployed or those on a fixed income? What can I personally tithe? Well, ten percent of my income, $0.00, is still $0.00. But there have been times in my past where if I had tithed a full ten percent, it would mean no food for a week or not making rent.

A similar statement was made with regards to time for our spiritual well-being. The same person who made the above statement about giving, we’ll call this person -B-, said, “We plan our time for GOD around our schedule, instead of planning our schedule around time for GOD.” Both of -B-‘s statements were aimed at clergy and laity alike. But as with the comment about giving, the comment about time shows a certain amount of privilege. What of those who work long hours or multiple jobs to support themselves and their loved ones? -B- is currently gainfully employed and attending seminary part time. -B- has both time and money to spend.

Part of the problem here is the casual use of language. Who is the “our” regarding budgets and giving? Who is the “we” regarding schedules and time for GOD? Perhaps I could have taken -B-‘s words more seriously if different language had been used. Instead of the all-inclusive pronouns “our” and “we,” phrases such as “there are persons who” might have been a better choice. This wording allows for variances in ability. And since all of this took place during a conversation about burn out among both clergy and laypersons who serve congregations, a more precise use of language is probably necessary.

I’m in my second semester of seminary. I don’t have answers to these issues yet. Even then, answers I may eventually come up with will not necessarily apply to all persons in these cases. But we as clergy in training must be careful of the words we use when speaking to, with, and in our faith communities. If our laity is getting burnt out, telling them they need to adjust their priorities to serve the community that should be supporting them seems to be counter-productive.

Imbolc, Chores, and the Kitchen Witch

2 02 2015

Today is Imbolc. Tradition has it that the Goddess is recovered from re/birthing the Sun at Yule. How would I go about celebrating this Sabat?

Well, we had plumbers scheduled to arrive in the afternoon, and there were things I needed to attend to before I could think about devotions or meditations. But as I was starting to feel a little down about this delay due to my chores, I found this could be a good thing. Am I a kitchen witch or not?

Some time ago, I create music folders on my computer for each Sabat on the Wheel of the Year. My Imbolc folder has these tracks:

  1. 12 O’Clock by Vangelis
  2. The Magic Mirror by Loren Gold
  3. Belladonna by Andreas Vollenweider
  4. Indian Whisper by Pandemonaeon
  5. Sentimental Walk by Philip Aaberg
  6. A Song for Nancy by Loren Gold
  7. Glorianna (Hymn a la Femme) by Vangelis
  8. Wedding Rain by Liz Story
  9. On a Day of Many Angels by Michael Manring
  10. Stella by Andreas Vollenweider

I connected my speaker to my phone, cued up the Imbolc folder, and began my chores. Later as I began writing this, I decided to refamiliarize myself with the lore of Imbolc and I found that a little pre-Spring cleaning is actually in order with this Sabat. And my second semester of seminary started today. Yes, it’s time for wool-gathering and new beginnings.

Amen, and Blessed be!

Reblogging: When a Boy Friend Becomes a Girl Friend

2 02 2015

First, note the spaces in the phrases “boy friend” and “girl friend” in this post’s title. Second, while it’s tough being a binary trans person, persons with non-binary gender identities have even more struggles.


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